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We all have something that we want that sometimes is a struggle to see other people around us getting or having the feeling like you’re the only person that doesn’t have the thing. But, what should you do when everyone around you is pregnant, and you are having a meltdown? Our guest, Erin Gray LMHT, LMT takes us through a four-step approach that you could apply to avoid a meltdown or at the very least lessen the blow.

Listen in as we explore the four quadrants and how we should handle life in each quadrant until we get to a sweet spot. 

Key Talking Points of the Episode: 

• Balancing a message of truth with a message of hope and not being Pollyanna 

• The difference between a goal, desire, and intentions 

• Engagement and attachment 

• Low engagement with low attachment 

• Low engagement with high attachment 

• High engagement with high attachment 

• The sweet spot: High engagement with low attachment 

Key...

I used to love the "Would You Rather" game in college.  

Not only would it crack me up, but I felt like I was getting an unfiltered view of someone off the cuff. 

Recently I have been pondering the question, "Would I rather possess the ability to generate certainty anytime about anything, or grow my capacity for uncertainty?"

I used to want certainty and believed that if I had it, I could do anything. That is partially true. Because when we feel good, it is generally easier to take action and create the lives we want.

In the last few years though, I have figured out that the skill of growing my capacity for uncertainty is much more freeing (and fun). 

When my capacity to weather uncertainty is strong, it means I don't have to try and control anything or anyone around me. 

I get to let  ALL  the people in my life show up exactly as they are with no agenda to change them or their behaviors, to let them freely do what they want without making it mean...

I have a question for you whether you are on the journey to conceiving or already growing your family.

When you set out on the journey to become a parent did you know it would be this hard?

Did anyone prepare you for self doubt, feeling like a failure or the grief that would come from a complete identity shift?

IF they did, did you believe them?

I ask this because I have found it to be true of myself and so many other women that you are never quite ready for the shake up that occurs internally on this profound transformation event to parent.

And if we don't see that coming we can sometimes be our own worst critic, thinking something has gone wrong, even though it hasn't.

Last week I shared with you the importance of community to help aid in modeling these transformations. 

But this week, I want you to go to the micro community- you and your thoughts.

I think having your own back, which simply means committing to yourself to not be hard on yourself on top of things when...

Have you ever had the deep inkling that you needed to be in community with women of various stages in their lives, BUT when the time to join came you backed out?

Maybe you had thoughts like....

They won't get me and I'll feel worse.

My fertility or parenting problems are so unique no one will understand. 

I'm terrified to show up and really be seen for who I am.

I don't want to be told what to do.

Listening to someone else complain is going to make me feel worse, better stay in the cave.

Those are all normal thoughts when we entertain the idea of joining a new group or are seeking support. 

They are normal because brains are wired to scare you back into the cave of isolation where it is safe and familiar.

Your brain would rather manage uncomfortable thoughts and emotions because they are habit, then risk rejection or the anxiety of change that comes from growth. ALL brains!

I'm inviting you purposely get uncomfortable with me and a divinely chosen group of women to help...

Have you ever been certain that a circumstance was going to end in one of two ways only to have it unfold in a way you never could have even dreamed of?

When humans get stressed, a lot of times our brains can kick into black or white thinking assuming we know that the outcome will be very limited and probable towards one. 

When we aren't aware this is happening we tend to buy the story our brains are crafting for us and start to prepare for the worst, bracing and rehearsing for impact.

Hello spin out of drama with a side of overindulgent worry. (We're old friends.)

But what if............

We could open ourselves up to a rainbow of creative solutions simply by stepping away from the realm of probability and into the realm of possibility? 

What could you solve for in your life if you were in a state of possibility instead of probability most of the time?

What if it were as easy as continually asking yourself the question, " Am I in probability or possibility thinking right...

As if fertility challenges weren't hard enough, now we are dealing with the ramifications of COVID-19. Today we bring you some sound advice for coping emotionally and the beautiful insight as to why you may be better equipped to handle this than you think.

Dealing with Postpartum Depression

Are you a new mom struggling to keep up? Do you feel like taking care of your child is way more work than you anticipated leaving you constantly overwhelmed? Or are you finding yourself in a constant emotional funk, while telling yourself you should feel happy? You could be suffering from postpartum depression.

Many women suffer from postpartum depression, and even more go undiagnosed with postpartum anxiety. The magnitude of the depression and/or anxiety can vary from one woman to the other. Some women suffer from severe postpartum depression including suicidal ideation, while others have a mild version constantly feeling like something just isn’t right.

When you are stuck in the thick of negative postpartum takedown, it can feel like it’s going to last forever. The good news is, it doesn’t have to, and there is a way out.

In today’s episode, we are honored to have Liz Langston join us. Liz is a postpartum coach and a...

Unfinished Business & How it is Wrecking Your Fertility

Our topic today on Unfinished Business may feel really uncomfortable but it can be a game changer. It’s worth every ounce of your energy to shine a light on it so you don’t have to spend an eternity’s worth of energy repressing it. I am joined by the great Erin Gray and together we cover our definition of unfinished business, give specific details on how they could affect fertility, share some exercises to release repressed emotion, and help you decide when you may need to seek professional help on this topic.

Takeaways

[2:35] Disclaimer: This is a messy yet powerful topic. It only seems overwhelming because it may be something that’s been hidden away for a long long time, what we like to call a sleeping dragon. It’s really rather simple to address though and we’ve seen it be the difference maker in some really tough cases.

[3:03] Erin’s definition of unfinished...

Description: Hello and welcome to a fun and juicy episode, all about male and female energies. Today we will be answering the question: what’s the difference between these energies and why does it matter when it comes to conception? Our guest on today’s show is the lovely Erin Gray, mental health counselor and licensed massage therapist extraordinaire. We also talk about balancing the male / female energies, the cultural background of how we got here in the first place, what not to do, and solid examples you can try out today.

Takeaways:

[1:15] I invite you to join me in Sweden this summer at my Relax & Recharge Retreat in the Land of the Midnight Sun. Imagine doing daily yoga and meditation surrounded by horses and alpacas, being served farm-to-table organic meals, and hiking or journaling as you practice simply BEING. Of course, partners and friends are welcome, but this meditation retreat is designed to help you get in touch with your male and...